Day 1: Self transformation

Inspiration Board by erina-tsh featuring a silk sleeveless blouse

Inspiration Board 2 by erina-tsh featuring strappy sandals

Date Night by erina-tsh featuring racerback tank tops

3 looks that I'm currently obsessed with right now. I'm craving a trip to the land up north (Thailand) again this year to replenish my wardrobe, or rather, stuff to the brim. :S

My two wardrobes seem to be overflowing with clothes I don't really wear, but when it comes to throwing/ giving them away, theres always the sentimentality in it or "I'll pair it with a gorgeous skirt that I NEED to buy". I need to re-wear & re-use.

If you've been with me recently you'll notice that I hardly make effort in dressing up anymore. I guess as time went by I lost interest in the thrills of primping myself for special outings. Dressing up really does give a girl confidence, don't you girls agree though? I've spent a lot of time thinking for the past recent years about life and things that were supposed to be mundane.

A resolution I've made recently is to undergo a self makeover. I found myself stuck in a rut that seemed impossible to get out of. Ever feel that way sometimes? When the disappointments (in yourself or others), the stress and the helplessness of it all seem to get at you. 

This has been going on for a while now and I'm now resolved to not just let life pass me by but truly live it.

So if there are still people out there reading my abandoned blog, join me. Self improvement (overall) is a step by step process!

Day 1: Resolve.

List down the areas of your life that need improving. No, forget that. List down improvements that could be made to yourself. Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually... Can't find any? Stop kidding yourself.

Things to note when resolving to self-improvement:

(1) Write it down, that way it's harder to procrastinate/forget about it.

I don't care whether you write it on your blog (like in my case), your facebook wall, your diary, or on your cats fur. Make sure the evidence is easily attainable and always accessible. If you see it often, the chances are, you'll do it more often. Even better - have an accountability partner. That way, it'll be harder for you to put it off.

(2) Be honest.

What do you really want to see changed in yourself? I recognize the term "be yourself" to be the worst form of self-assurance ever possible. I find that people, myself included, love using that term to get away with flaws and mistakes that they see in themselves. The correct form of self motivation should be "Be the best you that YOU can be". List them down, find ways to improve on them. What I did in the past was to accept them and come to terms with the fact that I'm forever doomed to be flawed in that area - constantly enveloping myself in self-guilt and blame, never moving forward in my life. Little did I know that it was also a form of self-denial that has caused my being stagnant the past few years. If you're unhappy with the way you are, or the situation you're in (and you can't seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel), change begins with resolution.

(3) Be realistic.

I've heard motivational speakers and even pastors constantly repeating this strategy to attaining your goals. Again the saying "Reach for the stars" or "Impossible is the limitaton you set on yourself" seems to be something I find irrelevant. Sure, it sounds motivating, challenging - and some visionaries might even testify to these statements. The truth is, we can have a million dreams, but if all we see is just the bigger picture, we're not going to see the steps to get there. Break it down. What small achievements need to be attained first before you reach your ultimate goal? Do that. Don't list down things like "I want to look like Heidi Klum". Unless you're planning on a trip to your nearest plastic surgeon, that's not going to be attainable. Does that mean you shouldn't dream big? NO. Dream the largest dream you can. Go beyond. Just think of your to do list as a ladder. Break it down - achieving success, for a majority of the population, anyway, is a step by step process. Think, analyze. Being realistic is seeing whether the process of getting to your dream is within your capability. Being realistic is about thinking the unthinkable but yet, achieving these thoughts in a progressive, gradual manner. You'll find yourself going further that way. Or that's what the experts tell me, anyways.

I'll post mine tomorrow, for now, contemplate!